Monday, February 17, 2014

In fitness and in health

I turned 30 last week..... 30! I've had to face facts, my once toned teenage dancers body is no more, I've entered another decade and avoiding KFC isn't enough to make me look fit and streamlined on my wedding day.

Queue the wedding diet and a commitment to exercise! While I'm not too concerned about the numbers on the scale right now as I know post jaw-op those will drop dramatically, I am at serious risk of being 'skinny-fat'. Skinny fat is when your a small size clothes but after years on not exercising (3 for me) your are soft all over.

That's where our fitness commitment comes in. We've recently joined the new gym at Inanda Country Club (think quiet countryside, with wandering horses and polo games in the middle of Sandton) and have enlisted the help of our trusty personal trainer to kill the bingo wings, saddle bags and squidgy tummies! Some days I leave pleasantly stiff, letting me know my body has worked hard, other days (particularly leg days) I can't walk afterwards and was asked once (day 2 after a session) what foot operation I'd had.


Next steps

With less than 9 months till we say "I do" we are wrapping up all the big things. Meeting with my wedding dress designer (Kristen Master from Garnish Couture) on Wednesday, finalising music (hoping to get the Rocketeers to play for cocktail hour) and buying favours and decor.

To another week of wobbly legs, stiff arms and happy hearts

The Maczar bride

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Its getting real......

After my last post, FH (Future Hubby) and I decided the focus on the end of year rush and leave the wedding details to 2014. With a venue, photographer, rough idea on dress and a suit we thought we were in a good space.

Then 2014 hit and I realized we only had 9 months to the wedding, thinking we still had time but should start working through a wedding checklist I used the online one linked to my Knot profile (haven't found an SA wedding site that is as useful) and saw all the items apparently 'overdue'. Thinking this was a tad dramatic I went about booking make up, marriage office, dj and setting up an appointment with the venue to discuss food, drinks, decor and flowers. The feedback was we were just in time and needed to book soon!

Making me look happy and fresh instead of exhausted!


Wanting to look flawless but still myself on the day I went about looking for make up artists, I followed magazine, friends and preferred suppliers suggestions. I discovered now that a 'value add' of some artists is they actually air brush your make up on. I'm not sure about anyone else but the thought of being spray painted with make up is rather off putting.



Based on photographs and reviews I narrowed it down to Sam Scarbourough and Janna Stone (Made up by Janna) both have facebook pages and websites and the photos are gorgeous. I personally decided to go with Janna, but don't think you could go wrong with either!

Saying I do



Neither FH and I are religious so the task of finding a marriage officer was quite tricky. There are several ministers that offer non-denominational services but I wanted to remove any religious aspect for the service and so went about finding someone to do a civil service for us.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to be alternative or different and still want the traditional till death do us part vows, with some ugly crying on my behalf and FH looking embarrassed hoping I'll hold it together, but I felt hypocritical involving God when we are unsure of our views and aren't fans of organised religion.

The recommendation from our venue and the one I scoped out on the internet is Larne Trevor Hugo. He has various ways of incorporating Celtic elements to the service and as a proud member of a clan with our own tartan, rock and even Rob Roy's grave this appealed to me. He can also do our ANC so it is a one stop shop for getting legally married.



We're having a meet and greet tonight to be sure that we all get along and then hopefully that's one more task down.

Getting pimped



On my trip to London late last year, I invested in an Italian wool suit for FH that was on special at one of the tailors on Jermyn street. With that organised we planned to hire suits for the groomsmen a couple of months before the wedding. Thank goodness fate intervened. FH was buying a shirt and bow tie for a work function last weekend and because it was on our way home from our boxing class (will give details of that next time) we decided to pop into Wedding Suit and Hire on the cnr of William Nicol and Republic. It was on our way home and I had seen their stand at the bridal expo last year.

The staff were incredibly helpful and after watching another groom picking his duds we briefly chatted to them about when we should start looking. The consensus was we should have been already. Despite our wedding being 8.5 months away they were already getting bookings for October and if we didn't hurry might not have any suits to hire!

That is on the agenda for 2 weeks time and I'll let you know what we decide on.

Now its just to pay deposits and book our honeymoon.

xxx

The Maczar bride

Monday, October 21, 2013

Websites, invitations and awkward conversations

It has been absolute ages since I last updated. I have meant to on several occasions but just been run of my feet with non-wedding related stuff.

It is less than a year to our wedding now and we have started making some progress.

Invitations
After the lovely job Bridesign did for us on the Engagement party invites we used them again for our Save the Dates. Saving multiple versions of Save the Dates, Chris and I realized the acronym might not be entirely appropriate for the event ;)

I did electronic engagement party invites as I wanted to keep it low key but definitely want printed for the rest. I realize now, 5 days before I want to give them out, I may have left the printing a little late. I want them to be postcard sized with magnets at the back so they can be put onto the fridge and our loved up faces will stare at the guest for the next 11.5 months.

For the printing I am using Minute Man Press in Fourways, for the magnetic strip to apply to the back of the card I have used Scrap-a-Doodles online store that uses Fastway couriers to deliver overnight and I am currently panicked about finding suitable envelopes, hopefully PNA will have.

With the handing out of invitations it is time for the part every betrothed couple dreads, the awkward conversations......

Awkward Conversations
I must warn you, these conversations will happen at any minute and they range for a variety of topics. The two major ones are

1) Who is and who isn't part of your bridal party. Some people are very polite about this and even seem surprised when you ask them, others have already written their speech and you have to decide to either politely turn them down or include them anyway to stop a fight.

2) Who is and isn't attending. With a guest list of 60-70 people we have had to be very strict on who we are inviting. This has been narrowed down to immediate family and close friends. We have even reserved giving engagement party invites to guests we are just 60-70% sure we want attending as you can't not follow this with a wedding invite and can also choose to extend a wedding invite to guests that weren't at the engagement party. The awkardness around this topic can arise at any time. In a work meeting when a colleague assumes they are attending, around the fire when a close friends friends assume they are invited by proxy and on social media where people believe knowing your are getting married is an invite.

There is no magic way to tackle these conversations, they are always going to be uncomfortable and sometimes you need to bring out the big guns (thank goodness for mums :) )

Websites
With the plethora of wedding websites it was quite hard to know which one to go with. We went with www.theknot.com. This website has great themes, is free and really guides you in what to put up. The downside is it is American and keeps telling me none of my zipcodes are accurate.

That said it is a great way for your guests to interact with you before the wedding and makes the actual invitation a bit easier as you don't need to try and fit every piece of information in. For the non-technologically-enable guests a brief phone call will work wonders, thanks to mum again for this :)

The pictures of you and little blurbs about your bridal party and venue create some excitement before the big day, at least for the bride.....

With the year wrapping up and our engagement party on Saturday we aren't planning to tackle much more this year but I'm sure I will still have some stories to tell.

Lots of love
The Maczar bride

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Extreme wedding weight loss - MacZar style

One of the first things you think about when you get engaged is how you are going to look on your wedding day. If you open a bridal magazine you are assaulted with the various nip and tuck procedures you should consider having in preparation.

If I believed everything I read, I would currently be in hospital recovering from breast augmentation surgery, with my liposuction scheduled for a few months time, botox now and in 6 months and of course some chemical peels to keep my skin looking 'youthful' (when did we start peeling layers off our face?????)

Instead I wanted what most brides do, a slightly slimmer physique and a beautiful smile, sounds easy, how wrong I was!

I haven't had any orthodontic work done. My teeth are okay, people aren't horrified at them but I'm certainly not going to be posing for dental magazines. Knowing that there are many new less obvious ways to straighten your teeth up a bit I consulted my dentist and then orthodontist for options. And boy did I open a can of worms.

False sense of security

The dentist was very nice and suggested a very quick method would be the use of crowns on my front 6 teeth which would not correct my overbite but would make my top teeth look straight. At about R30 000 for the 6 teeth this seemed like a feasible option.

Not to be. My fiance was horrified at the thought of me filing down my otherwise healthy teeth and getting false ones glued on. On to the orthodontist.

Reality bites

My orthodontist (Dr Steven Flax) strongly agreed and took all the necessary scans and x-rays and suggested I join him in a few weeks to discuss our options. What had started off as my own vanity, revealed issues that required treatment and fast...

My lower jaw is underdeveloped and is the reason my face is so round, this position of the jaw is causing migraines which are getting more frequent and severe and the longer it is left the longer the recovery is and the worse my migraines will get in the mean time.

This combined with the fact that I need my wisdom teeth out because they are in the exact position where the surgeon cuts through your jaw means I will be a frequent hospital visitor for the next 6 months and need braces!

The up side

After the op my face will be longer and look a bit thinner as a result. The braces will come off before the wedding and I will be getting my own exercise free weight loss program.

I start with the wisdoms on Monday and then braces towards the end of September, so I'm enjoying ribs and popcorn and other such food while I can.

Chat once I'm healed

A nervous MacZar bride

Friday, August 16, 2013

Crisis averted, until the next one

So we have done the seemingly impossible..... found and booked a wedding venue.

After much consideration we decided to go with a local venue, the stress of filling rooms at a hotel was an uncertainty we weren't willing to deal with. After looking at some venues we went with Morrells in Northcliff.

Pros of Morrells

This is one of the most impeccably decorated and maintained places I have had the luck to pass through. The style exactly matches my aesthetic (french country) and the staff are friendly, professional and helpful.






The chapel is non-denominational.

There is a flow between the indoor and outdoor spaces making for a very fluid event and nice to haves like a cigar bar, piano room, rose garden and a bar covered in old war love letters.

We haven't tasted the food but have heard fantastic reviews, all catering is done in house and the wine list is impressive.

Lastly, they cater for many of a brides concerns in house. With décor, flowers, food, drinks and entertainment sorted out it leaves us to arrive in pretty outfits, make sure there is someone to marry us and that our guests know where to go.

Cons of Morrells

As expected, a full-service venue like this does not come cheap. The venue hire and staff costs are some of the highest we have seen and with the need to use their in-house florist, flower and décor costs could escalate quickly.

The venue is located on quite a busy road in Northcliff, once you are inside you can barely here it, but you can't help that feel if it was situated down a quiet street it would be even more idyllic.

Despite this it was definitely the place we wanted to have a party with our nearest and dearest and dance the night away next to a vintage rocking horse.

What next you ask

With a lovely stationery designer, Tash Chapman at Bridesign we have our engagement party invites out. A casual affair at a cafe on a peach farm, peaches champagne and giggles!

We have our photographer booked.

We both have an idea what we want to look like but still need to find the dress/outfit without breaking the bank.

Then its downhill to the fun stuff, booking honeymoon, tasting menus, choosing cake and picking flowers

Hoping the wedding expo next weekend has some great ideas for us.

From a very happy but exhausted

Maczar bride

Monday, July 29, 2013

Sleepless nights and 100 emails

After my last post our happy wedding planning has promptly been turned on its head. Our wedding venue decided that they no longer want to hold weddings and will be conducting the last ones in April next year.

So feeling like we had exhausted the options in Clarens. We had to go back to the drawing board. I am still quite keen on the idea of a destination wedding and having seen Joburg prices, thought I would look in the Midlands.

Midlands premier venue

Hartford House is a truly spectacular place. Wonderful gardens, rooms, food, atmosphere.... everything really.

So imagine my surprise when their venue hire came in at R20 000 (for weddings between 50 and 80) guests. R22 000 including the use of the chapel. Unlike many other venues this included tables and chairs (you would think that would be a no brainer but apparently not), staff, linens, cutlery, candelabras and on the day co-ordination! What an incredible deal :) The chef, who is consistently in the best chefs in the country was accommodating and lovely. The problem here comes in with the need to take all 15 suites for the Friday and Saturday night. At a cost of around R5 000 per couple this is out of the reach of many of our guests and with only 50 adults expected almost every guest would need to take a room. If 4 or 5 rooms stay empty though this makes the venue unaffordable for us.

Closer to home

To do a full recon I investigated venues in Gauteng. Being the ever so slighty fussy person I am, we have a few criteria that are really important to us. Nice plated meal, chapel, single wedding venue. Having only 50-60 guests we thought this would be achievable. Not that easy!!!

I looked through every list of wedding venues I could find. I ruled out any venues we didn't like the connotations around (ex friend, ex partner etc). Then I checked the minimum and maximum number of guests they would accommodate. This removed about 70% of the venues. Then I checked for multiple weddings, this removed an additional 10%. Then I checked for the possibility to do plated meals, another 10% down. The last 10% which met our needs I checked availability (for a booking 14 months in advance). I am left with 4 potential venues, none of which I am sure about availability as they have not yet responded to my emails and only half have chapels (not a super idea with Jhb summer thunderstorms).

The Joburg contenders then are The Herford Country Hotel, De Hoek, Morrells and Vivere. Venue hire varies in price (lowest De Hoek at R16 000, highest Morrells at R34 000) but with different pricing and options for food and what's included in that price.

So now what to do?

The temptation to extend our honeymoon and just get married on a beach in the Maldives is awfully tempting....


But ultimately, I want to have a day to spend with my family and closest friends and celebrate the start of our marriage.

Tough decisions to make on our side....... Who said planning a wedding was easy?

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Vision and backups

After a wonderful, cold and productive weekend away we have chosen our venue! It turned out to be a fairly simple choice.

Experience always wins

Linwood Guest Farm has held a significant number of weddings on their property. When we arrived the owner and staff where knowledgeable, had answers to all our questions and could talk through options of what other brides have done. The further into this process I get, the more I realise that most brides are the same. We all like to think of ourselves as having very unique taste, but after your man pops sparkles on your finger we all seem to become one bridal mass!

Living the fairytale but with a plan B

The forest setting for a ceremony at Linwood is spectacular. With neither of us being religious, we had no need for a church or even to be in doors. Although the forest was dry when we were there the vision of how it could look convinced us that this was where we wanted to say our vows. More accurately where Chris will say his vows and I will have an ugly cry in front of the 80 people closest to me!

Despite the beauty of the setting, rain is a real threat for the day. Linwood has a beautiful, non-denominational, chapel on site. Interestingly it is one of the few wedding venues I've seen that hasn't put crosses in the ceremony areas, making it suitable for all religions.



Having vision

Despite my fiance's numerous strong points, the vision of what something could look like often fails him. I fear a career in wedding planning or interior decorating would not be a winning choice.

Linwood were great at showing us pictures of what other brides had done. I have also done quite a bit of research looking for wedding photo's of other couples at the venue on their photographers blog/facebook page. I highly recommend this, parts of a venue you wish to highlight/disguise are often similar to other brides (again, we are one mass!) and their methods can spark great ideas in you.



Easy escape

The last thing that really sold us on Linwood was the onsite accommodation. The accommodation style isn't what we would usually go for, its very farm/country chic, but the availability of 9 rooms so that all of our bridal party can choose to stay with us and ample space for both of us to get ready on the day without spotting each other was a serious selling point. I have found weddings where guests are not concerned with driving to be the most enjoyable and we plan to shuttle the remainder of our guests the 5 kilometres back into Clarens so no driving is required!

With two major aspects down the wedding feels like it is starting to take shape. Next up is hiring a wedding planner, finding an officiant (not as easy as it sounds since we want a non-denominational service in the Free-state), sending out Save-the-dates, planning the engagement party (better late than never) and investigating if I want to buy an off-the-rack dress or get one made.

More to follow
xxxx
Bride Maczar